8 September 2020
Here’s what you should consider:
In order to have fulfilling relationships with others, you’ll need to work on your relationship with yourself. These are some essential self-care tips:
Open and honest communication is an essential part of a healthy relationship. Assuming the motives, feelings and intentions of others has the potential to breed conflict.
Create a safe space for both you and your partner to be open with one another about how you are feeling. It is important to make sure to use words like “I feel” and not “You make me feel” so that you take responsibility for your emotions and do not shift blame.
Make sure to actively listen to your partner’s concerns without interrupting or making any assumptions about what they have expressed. If a misunderstanding develops, consider approaching the situation from a different perspective. For example, instead of stating: “So you mean…?” ask “What do you mean?”
Now is not the best time to point out that your significant other is “very messy” or “chews too loudly”. Instead of drawing attention to each other’s faults, find ways to compliment them and express gratitude. For example, thank them for the coffee they made this morning, commend them on a job well done after they’ve closed a business deal, or tell them how much you enjoyed the meal they cooked.
Authors and Couples-communication Specialists, Dr Helen LaKelly Hunt and husband Dr Harville Hendrix, suggest that you tell your partner three things you appreciate about them before you go to bed every night. They add that even if you’re not able to find compliments every day, try to avoid criticism. “If you want to be close, you can’t be critical,” says Dr Hendrix.
You’re spending much more time with your partner than usual and, as much as you love them, this can lead to tension and frustration. Here are additional ways to set boundaries:
This article is published courtesy of CareWays.